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Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships

Today we are going to talk about long distance relationships and I am going to be as honest as I possibly can about this topic. I know people have mixed opinions about this so I thought I would break it down for you all.

There are different scenarios of long-distance relationships. This often happens at university as partners might go to different ones. Or one partner could live in a different country. Whether it’s being in different universities or being separated by thousands of miles, I have experienced both within one relationship.

All relationships have their ups and downs but the distance can make them ten times worse. I can honestly tell you that it’s hard work being in a long distance relationship. It’s so difficult being able to talk to the person on the phone or to see them on the computer screen but not actually being able to be with them. It is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through but with the right person, it is worth it.

I have been dating my boyfriend for over 22 months now (yes, coming up to 2 years yay) and we go to different universities and therefore live two train journeys away from each other. We see each other every weekend and although that might not seem that bad, saying goodbye that often is incredibly sad. Also, during a3 month period in summer 2015, we were unable to see each other in person at all. But all of this is worth it. If you fail one of your assignments, do you stop going to university at all? If the train is delayed, do you quit going to your destination? If your car won’t turn on in the cold winter morning, do you just walk away? No. You keep going. You don’t give up. You keep doing better in your assignments, you find another way to your destination and you’ll get someone to fix your car. The key to long distance relationships is simply not giving up.

My tips for long distance relationships:
Trust. Trust your partner completely, otherwise it’s simply not going to work if you worry about what they’re doing and who they’re with every second of the day. Trust them to tell you about your day and don’t question it.
Communication. You have to talk to each other, which is kind of obvious. Message each other as much as you can. Talk about your days, make each other feel involved. It will make waiting for the moment to see each other so much easier.
Don’t give up. You will have difficult days. Some days are worse than others. But that doesn’t mean that all the good days don’t matter. If the person is worth it, so is waiting for them. Nowadays it’s actually very common to have a long distance relationship so I want you to know that you’re not alone in this.

– Helina x

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